Looking for love

Maja comes to me with a huge problem. Her life is sad, and it has become worse during the last years.  She thinks life has lost its meaning. She is desperately looking for a love in her life, but every time she meets a man she likes, she becomes very unsure if he is the right one, and then she does not dare to involve herself fully in the relationship.

It has been like this always. She thinks there has always lacked something in her life, and she is always looking for it. She has heard about me through one of her friends, and she really wants me to help her.
I ask her to tell a little about her life, and intuitively I feel that something around the age of four is important in relation to her problem. I ask her what happened in her life when she was four years old. First she gets a little confused, then she remembers that was the time when her parents got divorced. She grew up with her mother. She visited her father after the divorce, but her father's new wife did not like her very much, and the visits ended rather quickly. Telling about it, she gets in contact with the feeling of loss and starts to cry. I tell her I understand her feelings and hand her a Kleenex.

I then explain a little about Time Line Change therapy. About how human beings store their memories in a chronological sequence. I explain a little about how everything that happens in our lives seem to be stored in this timeline as memories, but many of these are hidden to the conscious mind. However, we can recall anything we need by travelling back through time in our mind and work with forgotten events. I tell her that I think this method will help her to let go of some of the things which today prevent her from finding love. She lights up at the thought of this, and tells me that she is ready.

I spend a little time letting her discover her inner timeline. It turns out that she experiences the line of the past going from the stomach and straight back like a line of dim light. Her future timeline goes from the stomach and straight ahead. The future is a little brighter and spreads out in a narrow V. When we have discovered this I ask her to close her eyes, start  talking her into a light trance state. I then guide her back to the time around which her parents were divorced  - all the time making sure that her attention is focused on experiencing it all from above, as if she is in the air above the timeline, above the events. She quickly finds an event where her parents quarrel, and her father says that he will leave, and goes into the bedroom to pack. Her mother breaks down and cries.  Maya sees her younger self coming from her own room and walking to hold her mother. I ask her what she decides in this situation, and she tells that she decides not to trust her father.

I then guide her further back above the timeline, until she is at a place before the event took place, and guide her to let go of the grief and the decision. It works.  I can see her let go, how the muscles in the face and the neck relax more. I give her time to let go of it all and then again guide her back to the event in the bedroom. I suggest that she lets love flow down into the event, and then I guide her to associate into the event  to let her experience how it is now different. It is. Even if she is now reliving the situation from inside, something has happened which makes her experience it without the strong emotions.

I guide her back to the present again, and  ask her to bring the new way of experiencing things back with her to all the events she passes on the way. Then I ask her to open her eyes whenever she is ready.
When I see her eyes I see the effect of this time line journey. Her eyes hold a clarification and an insight which was not there before.